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"All parents must set a strong example of faith in the home. Your children are being subject to much error and much soul destruction outside your home. Discipline and truth must be brought to the children. The greatest responsibility for these children will be given to the parents. Guard their souls well.” -Our Lady of the Roses, July 1, 1973
I was three years old when I got my first spanking from my father. I was wondering why. Apparently, I broke his Rolex watch. The next misdeed was when my two sisters and I went under the rain on our first floor roof. My two sisters were aged two and four while I being the eldest was six.
Initially there were two of us only, my second sister and I were on the roof. But my youngest sister was crying because she wanted to join us. I relented. The moment she stepped on the wet sloping roof, she slid down, down to the stony ground. My mother was sleeping
and my father was out.
Mother awoken because of the ensuing commotion, while the two older sisters were so terrified of the would be outcome of the accident. Is my sister dead? What punishment are we going to get?
Would you believe my youngest sister had no broken bones, just minor contusions. Isn't this a miracle? Jesus saved Flavy, my sister. It was a four-meter fall.
Did the two sister get a spanking? No! This incident was indelibly written in our mind. No spanking, yet we remembered.
When the siblings were already 10, My sister and I got into a fight.
I was already 18 and already working. The two of us sisters (second) got the leather belt from our father. It was the rule at the time, whether you are innocent or at fault, you get punished. Could that happen now. A big, fat NO. In the west, you would be reported to the authorities- by the child himself.
In the Philippines, we also have child abuse law. Usually it is the concerned neighbor who brings it to the attention of the head of the community unit.
If the child is already in his/her teens, spanking is not done, counselling would be more effective. I still subscribe to spanking if done the right way: not done during the time the parent is very angry that it could inflict physical and emotional trauma to the child. This happened between my son and me. It did set a wide gap between us for a long time. Thank God it has healed.
It is the responsibility of the parents to guard their children's physical and emotional well being as well as their soul.
Initially there were two of us only, my second sister and I were on the roof. But my youngest sister was crying because she wanted to join us. I relented. The moment she stepped on the wet sloping roof, she slid down, down to the stony ground. My mother was sleeping
and my father was out.
Mother awoken because of the ensuing commotion, while the two older sisters were so terrified of the would be outcome of the accident. Is my sister dead? What punishment are we going to get?
Would you believe my youngest sister had no broken bones, just minor contusions. Isn't this a miracle? Jesus saved Flavy, my sister. It was a four-meter fall.
Did the two sister get a spanking? No! This incident was indelibly written in our mind. No spanking, yet we remembered.
When the siblings were already 10, My sister and I got into a fight.
I was already 18 and already working. The two of us sisters (second) got the leather belt from our father. It was the rule at the time, whether you are innocent or at fault, you get punished. Could that happen now. A big, fat NO. In the west, you would be reported to the authorities- by the child himself.
In the Philippines, we also have child abuse law. Usually it is the concerned neighbor who brings it to the attention of the head of the community unit.
If the child is already in his/her teens, spanking is not done, counselling would be more effective. I still subscribe to spanking if done the right way: not done during the time the parent is very angry that it could inflict physical and emotional trauma to the child. This happened between my son and me. It did set a wide gap between us for a long time. Thank God it has healed.
It is the responsibility of the parents to guard their children's physical and emotional well being as well as their soul.
Here are some Bible verses to guide us in disciplining our children.
"He that loveth his son, frequently chastiseth him, that he may rejoice in his latter end, and not grope after the doors of his neighbors." (Ecclesiasticus 30:1)
"A horse not broken becometh stubborn, and a child left to himself will become headstrong." (Ecclesiasticus 30:8)
"Give him not liberty in his youth, and wink not at his devices. Bow down his neck while he is young, and beat his sides while he is a child, lest he grow stubborn, and regard thee not, and so be a sorrow of heart to thee." (Ecclesiasticus 30:11-12)
"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes." (Proverbs 13:24)
"Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou striketh him with a rod he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Advice from Mama Mary, St. Joseph and St. Joachim
GROW MORE DISOBEDIENT AND ARROGANT
“Children grow more disobedient and arrogant to parents. Man has lost the true meaning of love and charity of neighbor.
"I counsel you all to take your Book of life, Bible, and become knowledgeable of these latter days. The plan for the days ahead is covered quite thoroughly in this Book of life.
"Man would find his way to the Kingdom if he would cast aside the soul destroyers that he now has in his home, which destroy not only his soul but the souls of innocent children. For the love of money, these soul destroyers flood your earth.
"The time will come, without your prayers and actions, when you will no longer recognize sin as sin. You will become accustomed to sin as a way of life. The numbers to be saved in the final count will be in the few.” - Our Lady, July 15, 1973
"I counsel you all to take your Book of life, Bible, and become knowledgeable of these latter days. The plan for the days ahead is covered quite thoroughly in this Book of life.
"Man would find his way to the Kingdom if he would cast aside the soul destroyers that he now has in his home, which destroy not only his soul but the souls of innocent children. For the love of money, these soul destroyers flood your earth.
"The time will come, without your prayers and actions, when you will no longer recognize sin as sin. You will become accustomed to sin as a way of life. The numbers to be saved in the final count will be in the few.” - Our Lady, July 15, 1973
FIRMNESS IS NEEDED
"I wish that all fathers of households stand forth and practice their role. They will use the rod and not permit their children to go astray. Firmness is needed in your world that is filled with laxity, permissiveness, and degradation.
"Your children have been misled by many who shall answer to the Father. As teachers they have failed in their role. Therefore, as parents you must succeed in yours.” - St. Joseph, March 18, 1973
St. Joachim - "Humanism in your world has been created by satan. You will bring back the adages of old of 'Spare the rod, and you will spoil the child.' Discipline must be returned to the homes.”- July 25, 1973
